Anger fools you into thinking that you’re just standing up for yourself, that your rage is justified, that your righteous fury is not only warranted but essential – the object of your anger, even the internet that has just stopped working, totally deserves it!

Anger is temporary madness and completely self-destructive. It’s like grabbing a hammer and believing “If I just keep hitting myself with this, it will fix everything.”

Being angry is like taking a powerful, instant stupidity pill! It is a self-damaging response and I think we all reach a point where we just know it’s stupid, but sadly often after the damage is done.

As a hypnotherapist, I have helped people to conquer their anger and in addition to the hypnotic element, I always include these timeless, effective ways to defeat anger…

• Accept There Will Be Challenges: Cars break down, people will disappoint you, s**t happens!  Just consider this…Are your expectations realistic? Are you somehow assuming that nothing and no one must interfere with your entitlement to happiness?
• Broaden Your Perspective: Ask yourself, “In the big scheme of things, does this really matter? Will it matter tomorrow …or in a year…or on my death bed ?”
• Delay: Yes, delay is a great remedy for anger. Breathe deeply and slowly count to 5 (or 10!), before responding …

“There is no proof of greatness so sure as when nothing that can occur can provoke you.”  Seneca, a Stoic philosopher of Ancient Rome (4 BC-AD 65), 

Christmas is a time of giving and for someone who could do with some useful self-help, here are some books I would highly recommend….

I’ve been putting something off but now is the time to take action!…That something is to write about procrastination.

Well, since there is no time like the present, writing about procrastination is something I really shouldn’t put off any longer!

There are many reasons why we put things off, but all result in a huge negative energy build-up in body and mind.

Just knowing that we have something ‘hanging over us’ is a terrible burden and one that creates a self- reinforcing cycle. The more we put off, the more guilty we feel, the less we feel like doing things so the more we put off.

There are many strategies to help you break out of this destructive behaviour. One of the most powerful is the idea of ‘worst first .’

Every day, when you make your to-do list put a big asterisk beside the thing that you have been putting off the longest. Chances are that it is your least favourite activity or something you know you ought to do but are dreading, perhaps that difficult conversation you have been putting off for the right moment to come around but rarely does. Now put this ‘worst’ item right on top of the list

Whatever else you have to do today, that ‘worst first’ item is now your number one priority. You MUST strike it off your list this morning.

You’ll get three benefits (at least):

1. You have broken the cycle. Instead of sitting and laughing at you, poisoning your subconscious, that item can now only make you feel good: you’ve beaten it!
2. The next item on your to-do list can only seem easier – your day is getting better and better.
3. When you wake up tomorrow morning, enjoy the new- found feeling that there is nothing nearly so bad on your internal dread list.

And if you really cannot bring yourself to do “worst first” then try the “I’ll give it 5 minutes” approach. If you make a start on something you are as likely as not to find that it is not as bad as you imagined it would be….. and so will keep going and complete it. But even if you do find it is as bad as you thought then you can stop after 5 minutes having at least kept your promise!

While both meditation and hypnosis involve altered states of consciousness characterized by deep relaxation and focused attention, there are some key differences between the two:

Goal and Purpose:

• Meditation: Aims to cultivate self-awareness, non-judgmental observation, and present moment awareness. It’s not goal-oriented in the traditional sense, but rather a practice for personal growth and well-being.
• Hypnosis: Aims to achieve specific goals like managing pain, overcoming anxieties, or improving habits. A hypnotherapist guides the individual through a process which involves using suggestions and other techniques that can help them achieve these goals.

Induction and Control:

• Meditation: Primarily practised with self-directed techniques like focusing on the breath, using mantras, or guided visualizations. Requires consistent practice and effort to develop and maintain focus.
• Hypnosis: While it is possible to learn and use self-hypnosis, it usually requires an external guide like a hypnotherapist who uses techniques to induce the hypnotic state.

Focus and Awareness:

• Meditation: Cultivates non-judgmental observation of thoughts and feelings without getting attached to them. The focus is on being present in the moment and observing the mind’s activity without judgment.
• Hypnosis: May involve a narrower focus on specific suggestions or visualizations given by the guide. The individual often experiences a dream-like state and increased suggestibility to the therapist’s suggestions.

Benefits:

• Meditation: Improved self-awareness, reduced stress and anxiety, increased emotional regulation, and enhanced focus and attention.
• Hypnosis: Changing limiting beliefs and unwanted habits, anxiety reduction, improving performance and addressing phobias or other specific issues such as depression, grief and addiction.

Overall, meditation and hypnosis are distinct practices with different goals and approaches, even though they share some similarities in their experience.

Every year, the same scene replays: well-intentioned people craft ambitious resolutions, bursting with hope and optimism. But as January wanes, so does resolve. By February, many are ditching the resolutions, left with disappointment, broken dreams and a nagging sense of “same old, same old.”

But what if there was a way to break this cycle? Enter hypnotherapy, a powerful tool which can rewire your subconscious mind and pave the way for lasting change.

Why do resolutions fizzle out?

Our deepest beliefs and patterns, often buried in the subconscious, can sabotage our best intentions. These hidden “programs” might whisper fears like “I’m not good enough” or “Change is too hard.” Hypnotherapy helps access these hidden layers and replace them with positive affirmations, empowering suggestions and new behaviours.

How can hypnotherapy help?

Hypnotherapy doesn’t magically implant new habits – it empowers you to make the changes yourself. Here’s how:

• Motivation Boost: Hypnotherapy can tap into your intrinsic desires, making your resolutions feel less like “shoulds” and more like exciting possibilities.
• Craving Control: Hypnotherapy can address subconscious triggers for unhealthy habits, like stress-eating or procrastination. Imagine saying “no” to that extra doughnut with newfound ease!
• Inner Critic Tamer: Those negative self-talk voices? Hypnotherapy can help quiet them down and replace them with supportive, encouraging messages.
• Visualization Power: Hypnotherapy lets you vividly imagine yourself achieving your goals, building confidence and resilience in the face of challenges.

Resolutions Perfect for Hypnotherapy:

• Breaking unwanted habits: Smoking, nail-biting, overspending – you name it!
• Embracing healthy lifestyles: Exercise, healthy eating, mindfulness – get the support you need to make these sustainable.
• Boosting personal development: Building confidence, overcoming fears, improving relationships – unlock your full potential.

Ready to ditch the ditching and truly achieve your resolutions?

Hypnotherapy isn’t a magic wand, but it can be an amazingly powerful tool in your transformation toolbox. Working with me we can customize a program that addresses your specific goals and challenges. Remember, change takes time and effort on your part, but with the right support, you can turn your New Year’s resolutions into lasting victories.

Bonus Tip: Start small and celebrate each step! Hypnotherapy can help you break down your goals into manageable milestones, making the journey towards success feel less overwhelming and more rewarding.

So, this year, ditch the disappointment and embrace the power of your subconscious mind. With hypnotherapy by your side, you can make this New Year the one where your resolutions not only stick but thrive!

Let’s make 2024 the year you become the best version of yourself!  Just call me on 07976 701223 to see how I can help turn your New Year dreams into reality.

To smokers, vaping seems to be a healthier alternative to smoking cigarettes (though many vap and smoke!) but in my view, the truth is that E-cigarettes are just the latest in a long line of products that take advantage of the fact that most smokers are desperate to quit – in fact, a 2011 study from the US Center for Disease Control and Prevention showed: 70% of smokers want to quit…….56% tried to quit……But only a paltry 6% managed to quit!

Why is that? I think it’s because the most used options available – going cold turkey, nicotine gum and patches as well as e-cigarettes – all share the same fundamental flaw, one that as a hypnotherapist I am very much aware of. The problem is none of them address where addiction really lies – the unconscious mind!

Influencing the unconscious mind effectively and rapidly is what hypnotherapy is all about. That’s why I know that instead of buying expensive and sometimes explosive Vapes in an attempt to quit, a smoker could visit me in person or online and quickly untangle the desire to smoke from their unconscious – freeing them to live a healthier, wealthier, longer life.

Want to stop being addicted to nicotine? My highly effective 2 session stop smoking hypnotherapy service now costs just £200.

Human beings, in common with all mammals, share the same five defensive states that evolved to help us respond to danger and keep us alive. But what are these five defensive states? And how can they feel like such stressful burdens to us today?

You’re probably familiar with the first two—Fight and Flight—but there are three more that you may not be aware of:

1. Fight: Becoming aggressive in the face of a perceived threat (perception is all!)
2. Flight: The urge to flee a stressful—or seemingly stressful—situation
3. Freeze: A reaction that doesn’t feel like a reaction at all; not being able to think or move
4. Submit: Appeasing others when faced with a threatening situation
5. Attach: Forming unhealthy bonds after perceived situations of stress

Typically, people react in a conditioned way and so one of the above states can become their predominant response.

When our brains react to real threats and perceived threats—they can override our regulated state. And being in hijacked emotional states like these can lead to much unhappiness, frustration, confusion, and exhaustion. Not to mention the effects it can have on our relationships.

With effective hypnotherapy, I can help you uncover and learn how to rise above the hold each state can have on you, see things more clearly, and break free of unhelpful and unnecessary conditioned responses such as high anxiety.

If you are interested in finding out more about how hypnotherapy can help rescue you from emotional hijacking, just text or give me a call at 7976 701223

I had a call today from someone who watched the recording of Derren Brown’s brilliant Showman on Channel 4 last night to ask if I could do what he does!  The answer is yes and no! Yes…I can hypnotise people rapidly and it is a wonderfully powerful altered state….and no, I am not an entertainer or illusionist – I am a hypnotherapist!

As I explained to my caller, Hypnotherapy is a therapeutic technique used by trained hypnotherapists like me to help individuals overcome various mental and physical health issues such as anxiety, depression, addiction, phobias and chronic pain. Hypnotherapy aims to help individuals access the subconscious mind and use it to achieve positive change in their lives.

On the other hand, stage hypnosis is a form of entertainment where a hypnotist (and Derren Brown is a master hypnotist) performs on stage to entertain an audience. Stage hypnosis is not a therapeutic intervention, as the focus is on entertainment rather than therapeutic outcomes. The hypnotist’s goal is to get volunteers from the audience to perform amazing comical or bizarre acts under hypnosis.

And so, the main difference between hypnotherapy and stage hypnosis is the purpose and intention behind each practice. Hypnotherapy is a serious therapeutic treatment that requires extensive training and experience, while stage hypnosis is primarily for entertainment purposes only, although it does of course also demonstrate the power of hypnosis.